I wasn’t regret doing a lot of fun, but there were some things that I wish I could go back and tell myself. These are Four things that I wish I knew at 20 .
1 – Take responsibility
The lesson is that you have to take responsibility for yourself. Nobody’s gonna do it for you.
This is really one of those growing up moments when you realize that once you will face a problem or get in some hard case, Your parents, Friends and your Contacts aren’t gonna be there to fix and solve everything for you. You need to figure it out for yourself, And this is a very hard and a very expensive lesson that you’ll learn firsthand.
2 – Confidence builds by doing
Confidence builds by doing, perhaps You read a ton of books in your life ( knowledge ). For your own self development, entrepreneurial books things that you were really passionate and interested in, and while they taught you a lot and helped to lead you down the path that you on today and help guide your values principles and morals.
There are only so many books that you can read about self development or about Building a business until you actually go out and put it into practice and you actually try for yourself, That’s when you really learn.
When You look back at some of the skills where You had the most growth Maybe filmmaking, Photography, interviewing even weightlifting and making coffee it wasn’t by reading books or watching a video. You learned the most by actually doing by putting these things into practice.
It’s typically not that easy to see progress in the beginning, It can be really frustrating when you set out to try to learn photography for the first time, it’s hard to see the improved difference between the first day and the second day but Without a doubt. You can always look back over the course of two years and see massive improvement. It doesn’t matter how good you’ve gotten. It doesn’t matter what point Your career even today looking back to years ago, sometimes You feel cringe at the things that you have made, but really that cringe is just an Indication that You’re heading in the right direction that You’re learning and You’re really learning not by reading not by Researching but by actually getting out and doing it
3 – Go on more dates.
I didn’t go on a date for five years I made a lot of excuses like I was focusing on my business and I just didn’t have time to date right now But if I was being honest with myself, I had eventually built up a deep-rooted Anxiety about going on any dates and it took a long time Before I finally got the courage to put myself out there.
This one was a really difficult One for me to get over and the first date that I did go on the day of the day before I was a wreck.
I worried that I would run out of things to say that she wouldn’t like me that the date would be awkward, That the people next to me would know that we were going on a blind date. I had all of these self limiting doubts and it was mostly based upon the fact that I cared way too much what people thought and when I went on the date. It was okay. It was alright. It wasn’t like a big deal. It wasn’t a great date, we didn’t have this deep connection and that’s what I learned is that it’s really not a big deal and the more you put yourself into these uncomfortable situations the more that you’re gonna grow and learn about yourself and the less that you’re gonna make it become this really big thing, This obstacle that would be impossible to overcome.
So I just kept putting myself out there. I kept going on more dates not trying to find the love of my life, But trying to meet cool people try to potentially meet some friends and if I do end up meeting somebody then that’s great That’s awesome.
And that’s what ended up happening literally just one random swipe I was on the toilet and it was Emily. I wasn’t on the toilet, but I ended up meeting Emily through tinder and you don’t know unless you put yourself out there and a lot of times we don’t put ourselves out there because We’re worried about what other people will think. So No matter what other people think just go out and do what you want to do.
4 – Travel now
Everything Gonna be new and different. This will an experience not for Your career or for Your work or for Your ambitions. It Gonna be for Your life.
Ambition can sometimes get in the way of your life. You will find in your mind many reasons why now isn’t the time to travel, But looking back you’ll realize that you had all the time in the world. You have to plan ahead and force yourself to take some downtime pick a slow month and block off ten days to take an international trip book your flight so you have no choice but to go.
Don’t wait until you retire to travel , It’s way more affordable than you think and it will build more confidence than you can imagine Remember confidence builds by doing.
So no matter how old you are whether you’re 20 30 or 40
Let me know in the comments below what you’ve learned since you were 20 and what you would have done differently
I can’t wait to hear from you.